What are some signs that your social skills are improving?

[Bryan]

it's always nice to see someone paying attention to their social skills. Let me share my thoughts and a personal story that might help you spot the signs.

A few years ago, I was the kind of person who avoided small talk like it was a dentist appointment. Social gatherings? Nope, I’d cling to my phone like a lifeline. But one day, I decided enough was enough. I started pushing myself out of my comfort zone, little by little. And here’s what I noticed when things began improving:

1. Conversations Flow More Smoothly: At first, I’d overthink every word I said. But when I started focusing more on the other person and less on being "perfect," it felt natural. I even began cracking jokes that landed!
2. You Pick Up On Social Cues: I wasn’t always great at reading the room. But as I paid attention, I could tell when someone was bored, interested, or needed a little encouragement to join in.
3. People Seek You Out: This one was a big milestone for me. I noticed that friends started inviting me to events more often, and even strangers would approach me for directions or casual chit-chat. It felt like I’d become approachable.
4. You Start Feeling More Confident: This was the biggest game-changer. I remember standing in a group at a party and realizing I didn’t feel awkward anymore. I wasn’t rehearsing what to say; I was just present.

A specific moment that stands out was when I went to a friend’s wedding. I didn’t know many people there, but by the end of the night, I’d danced with a group of strangers, exchanged stories with the bride’s aunt, and even made a friend who later invited me to their game night. It hit me then—I’d come a long way from the person who’d avoid eye contact at Starbucks.

So, if you’re noticing any of these changes, you’re doing great! Keep putting yourself out there, and trust me, it only gets better with practice.